unsends:

im permanently emotionally damaged but it’s chill, I’m chill

drakesideheaux:

Class discussions are fun until u find out ur classmates are racists

pretty-transparents:

i use ‘!!’ a lot, but it’s honestly like a quiet ‘!!’

(Source: pixelins)

weavemama:

obama’s wife was disrespected, his daughters were disrespected, HE was disrespected but he never resorted to acting like 5 year old on social media and to the press

closet-keys:

aceyanaheim:

kintatsujo:

joyceanfartboner:

suicide baiting for sexual favors is probably the grossest shit predators do, and while i think as a 26 year old i have no place reblogging this call out and shit, id just like all my minor followers or just anyone to know that when someone does that to you, they are doing evil. that’s what theyre doing. it doesnt matter how sad they are. they’re doing evil.

Threatening suicide is a classic abuse tactic used to frighten compassionate people into staying at an abuser’s side or otherwise capitulating to an abuser’s demands.  I’ve seen it used on my friends and it’s terrifying knowing how frightened they are for a person who could be driving them to death themselves.

Since it’s to help people…what exactly do you do in a situation like this? I remember thinking “if I hang up this kid dies” when I got gaslighted and that felt like such a big risk to take.
I was wrong
Very wrong.
But I mean…other options?

It’s hard. But try to remind yourself over and over and over that your abuser’s behavior is entirely their choice. You are not responsible for their behavior. They decide their own action. They are very very good at making you feel like their behavior is your fault, but that is not true. 

The same way it’s abusive bullshit for someone to say “you made me hurt you” it’s also abusive bullshit for someone to say “you made me hurt them” or “you made me hurt myself.” Threatening violence to get you to comply, whether that violence is directed towards you, bystanders, or themselves, is fundamentally abusive. 

You have every right to hang up/leave in those situations. The illusion is that your choice is [Stay OR They Die] but that isn’t a real choice, that’s an abusive magic trick. Your choice is [Stay OR Leave] and their choice is [Hurt Myself OR Take Care of Myself] and you are not responsible for their choices. 

You are accountable for your own behavior, not theirs. No matter what your abuser does, no matter how convincingly they blame you, their violent actions are not your fault.